Jul 142010
 

June 23, 2010
Coaching lessons from my children

Today is exactly ten days since I returned from the Foundations/TAPOC Conference #2 in Singapore. During the Conference #2 weekend, as a dad, I was amazed at how much I was missing my wife and children. The part that intrigues me is that I travel a lot as my job takes me away from home much of the time, and normally it takes me four to five days before I start missing my family. However, now, it takes about four or five hours only to trigger emotions (of being with them) and what my kids have already taught me – being in the present, loving unconditionally and best of all they are my flexibility ‘wibble-wabble gurus’.

I remember clearly how my daughter, Sanjnah (she is turning four in July 2010) used to invite me to dance and I used to resist her invitation. Now, I am an ever willing partner in flexibility. My son, Keshava, who turned two in January 2010, is all play. He has taught me how learning can be playful, and how play can be learning. I relate these experiences in the context of the Newfield journey.

“There are infinite lessons that I am learning from my kids every day. There is no right time or place for showing love, care and just having fun. All the lessons I learn from my children just spring to mind when I am off-center. As Julio says, “It only gets better”.

I remember watching Sanjnah and Keshava just running around in circles in the garden chasing each other. In the past, I used just sit watch them in awe and wonder. But now I join in the excitement of just playing, dancing, hopping, skipping and running with them without any purpose or meaning. Just to play for the sake of playing! My children coach me on being present and being flexible. I am a child again!

At night, just before going to bed, Sanjnah now requests that she lays on my laps and that I sing or read to her. I am enjoying every moment of granting her request. I experience joy and a rewarding feeling daily. I tell my wife, how grateful I am as both my children enrich me.

In the past I used to judge my performance as a dad against “being the perfect dad” and that I will never match up to becoming one. Then it hit me, that my assessments of perfection were rooted in my emotions and moods when I was a little boy, having a difficult childhood with my dad.

For me, on a daily basis, I observe my kids play as a valuable lesson and unforgettable “coaching moment with my children”. When I see the Observer that I am now, freedom is just within my reach. Choices are there for me to choose from. My kids, like all children, are 100% in the present, in the NOW, constantly exploding in their experiences. I celebrated father’s day this time around just being in reflection on how the bond between my father and I have created a gift of me as a father. This is the gift that I now bring with me in my coaching work.

I say from experience that my children are my coaches. They create my results. I find meaning in this coaching journey that I am going through now. My children bring tremendous learning for me as I carry that experience to my work environment. My kids are a mirror of me and a reflection of how I am learning and growing in their space.

For me as a trainee coach, the gift of fatherhood means a seamless supply of stories, abundance of excitement, awe and wonder that I can bring into coaching. Children are able to find wonder in the simplest of things — an earthworm in the garden, an unusual bug on the sidewalk, an airplane in the sky and throwing pebbles into a puddle. As I reflect on the many ways of how fathers and kids learn from each other and grow in each others space, I leave you with a question to ponder: How have your children enriched your coaching? …. I am off to play with my children 🙂

May 142010
 
A friend of mine send this to me, and I am sure you have seen this many times.

Here is an example of an amazing illusion!!!

If your eyes follow the movement of the rotating pink dot, the dots will remain only one color, pink.

Moving dot
However if you stare at the black ‘+ ‘ in the center, the moving dot turns to green.  Now, concentrate on the black ‘ + ‘ in the center of the picture. After a short period, all the pink dots will slowly disappear, and you will only see only a single green dot rotating.

It’s amazing how our brain works. There really is no green dot, and the pink ones really don’t disappear.


Isn’t it true that this should be proof enough, in life, we don’t always see what we think we see…
Feb 182010
 

Excerpt From: Living Enlightenment
Chapter 1: You Are Your Emotions
Section 1: Flow in Love – Living enlightenment is expressing overflowing love towards all.
Part 15: The unity of Love
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Children feel that they are adults only when they say ‘no’ to their parents. It is a basic instinct. When they say ‘no’ they feel that they are established as an individual. That is why, all over the world, youngsters always rebel. Whether it is in the West or in the East, in all the countries all over the world, in all the cultures, the youth say ‘no’. When they say ‘no’, they feel they are strong.

But our love is dependent only on ‘yes’. As long as we receive ‘yes’, our love also is ‘yes’. When we get a ‘no’, we also start saying ‘no’. This is called horizontal love. It starts and ends horizontally. It starts again and ends again. It always ends with some reason or other. There is another love called vertical love. It never ends because it never starts. It is always there in the form of energy. It is consciousness. Vertical love is when we suddenly realize that we are living inside everybody just as we live inside our own body!

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